Smartphone Love Affair
It should come as no surprise that technology, smartphones, and the internet are changing the way couples interact with each other.
It sure is convenient to be able to text your husband to pick up milk on the way home from work, or to Facetime your wife with the kids before she boards a plane on a business trip. Certainly, smartphones have their place in our daily lives.
Have you ever stopped to consider how your smartphone use might be affecting your relationship negatively?
Research is clear that more and more couples’ sex lives are negatively impacted by cell phone use because more and more couples are taking the phones to bed with them — to the point that the phone, rather than their partner, is the last thing they see before they close their eyes at night.
Perhaps the most important thing you can do when it comes to your smartphone and your relationship is consider what message you are communicating to your partner when you choose your phone instead of them.
There will be times when answering a text or picking up the phone are inevitable when you’re with your family, but we want you to think about what you are saying to your partner when you repeatedly consciously decide to engage your phone instead of them.
What you are saying to your partner is that they are less important, less compelling, and less valuable that whatever has called your attention online.
Simply put — you are rejecting them, and rejection never feels good.
Choosing your phone is the electronic version of “you suck and you are not enough!” So, before you pick up your phone, ask yourself, “Do I really want to be rejecting my partner right now?”
Because “you suck” is never a message you want to send to your partner.